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Try to add to a thread that is already posted rather than begining your own thread each time. This will allow for better response and feedback from members and will keep older threads active and current. If you will read through the subject headings of the threads prior to posting, this goal can be achieved. New threads are encouraged if the topic does not already have an active thread on the message boards. -
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Please note this is a private community oriented for codependents or people interested about codependency. We are not affiliated with CoDependents Anonymous in any way. Most of us are members of Codependents Anonymous, and the meetings held in our chat room are unregistered meetings mainly for codependents, but others suffering from other addictions are welcomed as well. -
About 12-step Recovery Meetings: 12-step recovery is an anonymous program, and respects the confidentiality of its members at all times. 12-step recovery programs are not a medical or psychiatric service, nor does it provide personal or family counseling. Leadership of group meetings rotates and is non-professional. The leader's function is simply to conduct the meeting, not to serve as an authority. Our meetings are structured to assist individuals who want to achieve and maintain emotional health by understanding and utilizing the Twelve Steps of the Anonymous 12-step program choosen in their daily lives. 12-step reecovery programs provide a warm and accepting group setting in which to share experiences without fear of criticism. Through weekly support meetings, members discover they are not alone in their struggles. We may each have different symptoms, but the underlying emotions are the same or similar. What is said in a 12-step recovery meeting, stays in that 12-step recovery meeting....that is the ANONYMOUS part of it where the confidentiality of all the attedees of a meeting is respected at all times. -
Confidentiality of information @ CodependentsChat: Members must respect the privacy of the other participants in the community. Do not publish, copy & paste or forward, in whole or in part, messages from this or other communities, or emails, or group chats without the permission of the sender and those that may be involved in the message. Do not publish/repeat facts, rumors, or innuendo regarding anyone's personal life. What is said within this community (or community related affairs - -including chat shares), should remain private and remain here for those who wish to join us as members of this community. Those who wish to be addressed by their nicknames should be addressed as such, and the others shall be addressed as they wish. If you know a persons real name, but they go by a nickname at this community, please respect that persons privacy. We all have our own reasons for having nicknames, and each person who is associated with this community needs to respect that. 12-step recovery is an anonymous program, and respects the confidentiality of its members at all times. -
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Anyone who repeatedly violates these guidelines or disrupts the community for other members is subject to expulsion or other restrictions on community membership privileges. Please show respect for each other and for our community.  Thank you... The CodependentsChat Management Team Importance of Anonymity/Helpful Anonymity: When stressed it is not unusual for people to feel as though they are being pulled in many different directions, perhaps even as if they are being torn apart. Most of us come to our first (support) meeting under stress and in distress, so what we definitely don’t need is to have different people vying for our attention, and giving us conflicting pieces of advice to follow. We also don’t need cause to fear that what we share might be publicly exposed without our permission. Many of us come feeling ashamed and inadequate, which would cause us to run if we were threatened with public exposure. We might be ashamed of ourselves or of others we are attached to, or both, but regardless the most significant factor is a shamed person’s natural inclination is to hide, which increases isolation, loneliness, fear, and reluctance to ask for help. All of these promote the growth of the disease, and hamper our step twelve efforts. This is the reason for the cloak of anonymity, to provide a sense of safety for people to share sensitive material, which is needed for healing, in as easy and direct a manner as possible for them. When we apply anonymity to ourselves, in the sense of not trying to make a reputation for ourselves personally, we also increase the opportunity for humility’s growth and maintenance, while decreasing our need to give advice to swell our egos. This strengthens our program, while helping the newcomer, by providing an example of humble behavior, and also in the sense previously spoken of in this reading. Today, I will keep this reading in mind and reflect on it, while utilizing God’s guidance, strength, and grace, to utilize the spiritual principle of anonymity to the best of my ability. By James (Pakwa Jim author) I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could never do alone. no longer is there a sense of hopelessness. no longer must we depend upon our own unsteady willpower. we are all together now, reaching out for power and strength greater than ours. And as we join together, we will find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams.
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