1. They lie about who they're calling when they call
their connections.

We lie about who we're calling when we call their
connections to check up on them.

2. They drive to seedy places in the middle of the
night to get their fix.

We drive to seedy places in the middle of the night to
look for them.

3. They peek out the windows when they're high and
paranoid.

We peek out the windows when we're waiting for them to
get home and think we heard a car.

4. They find the strangest places to hide their
drugs.

We find even stranger places to hide our money.

5. They delete the call lists on their phone so we
don't know who they've called

We delete the call lists on our phones so they don't
know we've been checking up on them.

6. They borrow money to get high.

We have to borrow money to pay our bills.

7. They tell our friends to mind their own business
and stop meddling in ours.

We tell their friends to STAY AWAY from them or else!!

8. They stay up all night getting high.

We stay up all night waiting/worrying for them.

9. They go through our purses/pockets looking for
money.

We go through their wallets/pockets looking for
evidence of drug use.

10. They go days without eating because of their use.

We go days without eating because our stomachs are so
upset we can't eat.

This list could go on and on, but I think you can see
the picture I'm creating. We KNOW their behaviour is
insane, ridiculous, unhealthy, out of control, heading
for disaster etc. But what an eye opener when we
realize we are doing the same exact things they are!!


Do we continue with this behaviour? Or do we *Let it
Begin with Me* and start to change it? We would most
certainly change their behaviour if we could, but as
most of us have realize WE can't. However, we can
change our OWN behaviour. We can choose to stop
reacting in the ways we have become accustomed to. We
can learn the tools we need to do that.

*God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I
cannot change, The Courage to change the things I can,
and the Wisdom to know the difference