Emotionally abused children grow up with significantly altered perceptions so that they "see" behaviors—their own and others'—through a filter of distortion. Many emotionally abused children engage in a lifelong drive for the approval (which they translate as "love") of others. So eager are they for love—and so convinced that they don't deserve it—that they are prime candidates for abuse within intimate relationships.
You Carry the Cure in Your Heart by Andrew Vachss
http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/disp_9408_a.html
Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
"Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it."
Resources for children
http://www.childwitnesstoviolence.org/resources/resouces_library.html
When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft
http://www.amazon.com/When-Dad-Hurts-Lundy-Bancroft/dp/0399151109
An Umbrella for Alex by Dr. Mary Gay, Personality Disorders Awareness Network
(for children with PD parents)
http://www.pdan.org/store.php
How to Raise Compassionate Children
http://nz.msnusers.com/narcissisticpersonalitydisorder/general.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=382623&LastModified=4675608363688867532
Hint: Ask your librarian or local women's shelters about recommended books for children to cope with family abuse situations.
Just Like His Father? by Dr. Liane J. Leedom
http://www.parentingtheatriskchild.com/
Understanding the Borderline Mother - Lawson
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0765703319/ref=pe_606_2583960_pe_ar_t10765703319/103-2636113-9972646?n=283155
Member recommended resources/links
http://nz.msnusers.com/narcissisticpersonalitydisorder/divorcecustody.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=271805&
LastModified=4675566068084699285
The booklist from Heartless Bitches
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/culture/kidsbooks.shtml
Helping Children Understand their Parent's Mental Illness
http://www.bpd411.org/parentalwish.html
http://www.mhasp.org/coping/guardians.html
Tell Your Children the Truth by Dr. Sam Vaknin
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse13.html
You Owe Me – Children of Entitlement - Hint: Children recognizing signs of mental disorders in other children helps them understand it in adults
http://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/teach9.htm
During the Teen Years
http://www.4therapy.com/consumer/conditions/item.php?uniqueid=6261
Reactions - Childhood through adolescence
http://www.4therapy.com/consumer/conditions/item.php?uniqueid=5176&categoryid=426
Talking to Children About Abuse
http://www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/kids/safety_talking.shtml
Good Touch/Bad Touch.com
http://www.goodtouchbadtouch.com/
National Centre for Missing/Exploited Children
http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PublicHomeServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US
Dr. R. Grossman's site on Nism/Relationships/Children's 'Voice'and Genetics
http://www.voicelessness.com/
Helping Children - for caregivers
http://www.lfcc.on.ca/CCFJS_trainingmaterial.html
Books for Kids
http://www.heartless-bitches.com/culture/kidsbooks.shtml
A Family That Fights
An 8 year old boy & his two younger siblings live in a home where the father abuses the mother. Picture book with illustrations in pencil, 4 - 12 years.
A Safe Place
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0807572128/absolutsearch05/104-4241252-4924758
All Season Front Row Seat to the FightsL, Larson
A collaboration between a counselor & the children she has worked with. Black & white illustration by children, with explanations by the author; 7 - 13 years.
Clover's Secret
http://www.scvan.org/clovers_secret.html
imaginary land where people can fly, two girls form a friendship that helps one of them deal with the problems she faces at home. 4 - 10 years.
The Dragon & the Mouse
A mouse lives with a dragon who is abuse to him emotionally, physically, mentally and socially. 4 - 11 years.
Hear My Roar: Lungin's Broken Family Dr. Ty Hochban
A bear family struggles with the father bear's drinking and abuse. 6 - 11 years
Mommy & Daddy are Fighting - Three young sisters build a fort of blankets & huddle together to cope with their father's abuse against their mother. Picture book with washed illustrations, 4 - 8 years.
*Something Is Wrong At My House / Algo Anda Mal En Mi Casa
http://www.parentingpress.com/
Greg's dad never physically hurt anybody, but he yelled things that often made the people around him feel awful.8 - 12 years
Daddy, Daddy, Be There
http://hallkidsfamily.com/parents/111.shtml
Bullying Resources
http://www.med.umich.edu/1libr/pa/pa_blbully_pep.htm Unusual Parents
http://nancykeane.com/rl/196.htm Great Books for Girls (and Boys & more)
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0345450213/heartlessbitches/002-8677917-6914412
How do I protect children from abuse but still enable them to have a relationship with their father?
http://www.faqfarm.com/Love/Abusive/4541
When Dad Hurts Mom - Lundy Bancroft
http://www.penguinputnam.com/nf/Book/BookDisplay/0,,0_0425200310,00.html
Book Recommendation:Why is always about you? The seven deadly sins of Narcissism (Hotchkiss) - recommended by a therapist as suitable for older children
